How to Live a Self-Empowered Life

None of us wakes up and thinks to ourselves “how will I disempower myself today?” We all want to live successful lives, and we want to be the masters of our fate.

Although we want to live empowered lives, we unconsciously disempower ourselves. Here are some ways you may be giving away your power or just not standing in your power without you even realizing it. 

Stop These Disempowering Habits:

• You say “yes” when you mean “no.”
• You spend time worrying about what other people think of you.
• You use disempowering language – “I can’t” “I’m not great at X” “I should” “I have to”
• You focus on failures rather than successes
• You think to live empowered you must do everything yourself
• You think things are tougher or worse than they really are
• You ruminate on negative emotions such as regret, guilt, self-doubt, unforgiveness
• You constantly compare yourself to others
• You practice other disempowering habits, e.g., set goals that are unrealistic

While much is written about people who disempower others, the habits above are all within your control. That’s great news because you control how much power you exercise in your life.

So, let’s turn this around and create a self-empowered life. That’s what you really desire. To live a self-empowered life means you take charge of your own life through the decisions and actions you make every day.

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With belief, skills, and action, you can live a self-empowered life. Here’s how:

Start These Empowering Habits:

Belief: 

• You use empowering language: “I can” “I will” “I’m great at X”
• You reflect on past challenges you overcame and your resiliency, grit, and perseverance
• You believe that whatever lies ahead you can figure it out
• You see knowing when to ask for help as one of your superpowers
• You are content with yourself
• You know that you have something valuable to contribute in this world
• You speak positively and powerfully about yourself
• You believe that you can achieve your goals and dreams

Skills:

• You invest in your growth and development
• You are honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses
• You stretch outside your comfort zone
• You teach what you know to others
• You try new things – you’re comfortable being a novice as you learn
• You willingly learn from others

Action: 

• You set reasonable, “powerful” goals and achieve them
• You use your power to influence positive actions and outcomes for yourself and others
• You stay actively involved in your work and personal life
• You consciously focus your time, energy, and resources on things that matter to you
• You move on from setbacks quickly and learn from them
• You empower others (Empowered people empower others)

Living a self-empowered life is within your reach. Look at the habits above and commit to doing more of what empowers you and less of what disempowers you.

The Aha! Life is an empowered life. It’s when you take control of your own life. You believe in yourself, you build the skills you need to increase your confidence and self-esteem, and you take action to achieve your goals and dreams and influence others.